reunions

I am not fond of reunions. I like some but to a certain limit. I like our family gathering (limited to 1st degree cousins) and I don’t even call that a reunion. It’s just a typical gathering for us which happens as if our family is not running out of occasions: birthday, congratulatory party, going-away party, welcome back party, barbecue party, seafood party. I like reunions with closest friends. Meet-ups, Coffee sessions, inuman sessions, out-of-town trips, movie day, shopping day but then again they are not reunions if anyway you do them almost everytime time permits.

I guess I don’t like reunions with people you think were close to you until suddenly when you meet you wonder how that happened in the past. I don’t like the part in reunions when the inferiority complex part of you starts to reintroduce itself and make you think had I not gone here, I wouldn’t think less of myself. Yesterday, I felt whole but here suddenly, another person whole-er than you shows up and you just are part of the rest of the statistics. Or you feel that there are far more better things you can do with your time other than to rub elbows with these people. No matter how you try to avoid incidences like this, they do happen during reunions.

I did not attend our grand clan reunion to my cousins’ protest because they also felt that way towards our clan reunions. It’s not that I hate them but I just don’t have a strong affinity to them for various reasons I’d rather not dicslose here. I just told my mom that I had to do more important things. I heard my Teatro-mates organized a reunion last December. I didn’t bother to know the details. I did not attend. I also don’t have plans of organizing our HS 10th year reunion although I wrote in my dreamboard that I want to be the most fab girl in our HS reunion.. hehe. I haven’t attended any homecoming in LB since the EconSoc’s 20th and DLS’s 50th but I meet a lot of brods and sisses in offline dates.

Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that I don’t like reunions but I like to meet people again. Reunion for me connotes grand meet-ups  and comparisons on where you are now compared when you last met and I know I am poor compared to a regular lay man’s standards. I guess my low regard for myself is the reason why I stopped updating Friendster. I feel nothing compared to what my friends have reached.

This is not a self-pity post. Actually, this is to redeem my idea of reunions. Last Saturday, I met-up (should I be using the word reunited instead of met-up to redeem reunions? hehe)with Rica, my best friend since HS, my Teatro-mate, my 4-year roommate in Crayon Box, my housemate when I worked in Laguna for a month. We haven’t seen each other since her sister’s debut to think that we live in the same Village in Batangas, we practically stay in the same area in Mandaluyong, we work in the same area. I feel guilty if I say we’re busy because I find the time to meet other friends even though I’m busy. I guess since we are just two, where it should have been easier to meet up, we find it more difficult to meet us because anyway we always reason that there will be another time to meet anyway where it will be more convenient for both. Anyway, so we met up last Saturday because I was bored and I had nothing to do. Since I had ADHD I asked all possible people to spare me some time for coffee or drinks or anything to get me out of my apartment. I was hoping Rica would be the most available and she was. We had dinner and coffee and we chatted like we used to. We chatted for 6 hours (unconsciously of the time) until we had to call it a night. We practically talked about everything. Mind you, there were no reminscing the past moments yet so if we were to add that, how much more time do we need? I did the talking at the start but later on I was just listening. So I was not yet in my talking self then. How much more? Hahaha.. Funny how you can learn, unlearn and relearn a lot about the most important people in your life. Funny how fast time flies. Funny how 6 hours of talking is too short and almost two-year of not meeting seemed short as well because we chat as if it were only yesterday that we last saw each other.

I learned that Rica’s passion is make-up. She plans to study the craft this summer although she really is already good at it now. I only learned about this last Saturday although we’ve been friends for more than a decade. I think it’s BS when people say that it’s the quality of reunions that matter not the quantity. Friends should reunite as often as possible, No excuses.

If we had done this more often in the past year, I wouldn’t have called it reunion, then I have to hate reunions again. hehe